BEFORE YOU CAN ADOPT you need to complete a home study which certifies you to be eligible to adopt. As you begin to navigate the world of adoption, you need to first decide on the type of adoption you would like to pursue... Agency adoption or Attorney (private) adoption. There is also Foster Care adoption and International adoption. Our adoption journey with our daughter (first adopted) began with us having very little knowledge of the adoption world.
At the time I had been grieving multiple pregnancy losses. I felt that doctors and the therapist I was seeing were pushing me towards fertility treatments. I already had my reservations about fertility treatments, I had heard so many stories of women who put their bodies through so much. Since a young age I've had very positive feelings towards adoption, I grew up around families that we know who had adopted children and I always said "I would adopt". I was fond of the tight and supportive family relationships I saw in these families, adopted or not adopted did not make any difference, just normal family living. The lives of adopted families that I know are those of people who live life to the fullest, no moments taken for granted, so much respect and appreciation for one another and exactly what I wish to have with my children.
I did try one round of IVF, it was Thanksgiving morning and the center called to tell us "I'm sorry the transfer would not be taking place." for me the whole process felt very unnatural. Having said that, I do know many couples who were very successful with IVF and for them that was God's plan for their family. For me, I knew adoption would be the way I would grow my family and become a mother. I believe there is a plan for every family. I know in my heart that the way our family was going to be formed, was going to be through adoption. My husband and myself both have big hearts and a lot of love for family and children (biological or non) and we just couldn't wait to start the process.
So, I told the therapist I had been talking to that we wanted to start the adoption process but didn't know where to start (she was also a social worker and knew a lot on the subject). She recommended that we get involved with an adoption support group to talk and exchange information with other couples and families in the adoption world. This was the start of our adoption journey. So my recommendation for anyone who is seeking information about entering the world of adoption...an adoption support group is a great way to begin. APC (Adoption Parenting Committee) was the first group we joined.
I will be blogging about our adoption(s) journey(s), in hopes that my sharing will help other families, who are starting out unknowing on how to pursue adoption.
I really hope my insight helps. Check back soon for my next post [Agency vs. Attorney]